Last weekend I had to organize an event that I was really passionate about, like I told you in a previous video.
I had put so much effort into it, planned it, tried my best to make everything work out but since there were so many things I could not control- like who would turn up, how they would respond, the outcome of the night, etc- there was still a bit of nervousness somewhere in my heart.
Have you ever dealt with uncertainty?
Chances are, the more you try to do anything significant with your life the more you will have to deal with increasing levels of uncertainty. Our relationship with uncertainty is very important because it can affect our willingness to pursue those things that we were made to do.
A simple change of perspective has helped me to deal with uncertainty which I want to share with you.
It is the idea of catalytic leadership.
There is the ego-driven leader and then the catalytic leader.
For the ego-driven leader, everything centres on you. You don’t want to fail because you are afraid of looking bad. You want everything to go well because its all about you. You are the boss and you want to hold on to your false sense of control by getting everything to work out perfect at the expense of your happiness and that of others around you.
As a catalytic leader, it is about others. You realize that leadership is simply an opportunity. You have been entrusted with the humbling task of bringing out the best from everyone who has come your way and who you have the opportunity to influence.
Changing my mindset from making my nerves the centre of my attention to realizing it wasn’t about me opened me up to the joy of being a leader. I was simply a catalyst, organizing an event to help others get what they want out of life- be it fun, education, expanded networks, food (lol), and purpose. I was being sensitive to the needs of everyone around me to figure out the best way to meet it. I was giving them the opportunity to be a part of something great and to reorient themselves towards their passions and destinies; perhaps even open new perspectives for them.
This simple perspective- putting my ego aside and realizing I am simply a catalyst and the world doesn’t revolve around me- helps me help others and in turn help myself.
We make exchanges every day- we exchange our time, our resources, our money, our trust etc. As a leader, you want to make sure that instead of giving the least and expecting the most, you actually always give more value in every exchange you make. You give more value for the money paid for your time and services. You give more value for the time you share with others. You give back purpose for the resources you receive.
What of when you think you have nothing to give in return? In that case you wonder- how can you actually give value since you might think you are on the receiving end?
Not true. Value may not always be monetary.What I have learnt is that you can still give others value by giving them a platform to make a change, by respecting their thoughts, by allowing them to be part of something bigger than themselves, by being sensitive enough to notice their skills and to enable them get the best out of the experience, etc
That is your job as a leader, not to be the boss or figure head, but to put your ego aside and see how you can help others maximize their potential. Once you really get this, you won’t be short of followers and you won’t be short of success either.
Leadership is a great privilege. You never know why people step into your lives. Don’t miss the privilege of guiding them into their passions and destinies by being stuck in the me-first personality. Be a catalytic leader instead – a catalyst for the successes, happiness and destinies of others and in turn, your own destiny.
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